I’ve always abhorred the word ‘hater’. Mostly because I dislike the connotations and general mentality that tends to accompany it. This idea that if someone faults you, a project or idea of yours, the problem must surely just be them. It must definitely be an issue of theirs or completely unfounded. One thing that’s for sure? It’s not you. Why would it be?
This mentality to me has never been conducive to constructive criticism or growth in the individual who by default by having someone dislike something belonging to them, must have a ‘hater’ on their hands.
Although that’s not to say that haters don’t exist. Insecurity and mean-spiritedness thrive in this anonymous digital age. But perhaps be more discerning before you paint everyone with that brush. To validify calling someone a hater would mean ascertaining whether they have anything valuable or constructive to say- and especially if they’re saying it in a nice or useful way.
I encourage you to question , the next time you’re faced with ‘noise’, to ask yourself, if this person (especially if someone who generally and in the past, has no reason or relation to hating you) might actually have something valuable to say, even if they don’t intend for their criticism to be valuable. Use it as such.
A hater can sometimes be your most prized object- although obnoxious, prying and unsolicited, a hater is perhaps a sort of feedback. When you sift through the insecurity and viciousness, you may find that they might actually be on to something. Maybe your eyebrows are being drawn on a little too thick and you’ve got carried away. Don’t stop shaping- shape better. Maybe you do talk over people when trying to get your point across- that doesn’t mean you need to tone it down, but practice the art of patience so that your line, when delivered, has the full impact you intend (because people are more willing to listen when they feel heard). Point heard.
Last week, Fox News host Greg Gutfeld decided to begin a tirade on band, Red Hot Chili Peppers. What started it? A video of guitarist Flea, playing bass with Koko the Gorilla played on his show, The Five. He called RHCP “the worst band on the planet” and continued to throw shade saying that Koko played better than frontman, Anthony Kiedis. Even more dumbfounding, he declared Faith No More the superior rock band… We weren’t aware they were competing, actually. Or that this was in question (because obviously he’s wrong). He later rephrased his earlier statement with, “What I meant to say was the Red Hot Chili Peppers is the worst band in the universe. I’d like to apologize for that confusion …”. We’re sorry you’re confused too Greg.
How could you even hate on this?
When NME asked Flea what he thought about the whole thing and Flea replied: “I remember seeing a poll recently that said people who watch Fox News knew less about world affairs than people who watch no news at all. It’s clearly a funny program.” Because clearly Gutfeld’s criticism had no intention of being constructive, and was obviously therefore unvaluable.
But thanks anyway, Greg.
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