The Relatability Of Taylor Swift’s Sexual Assault Lawsuit Is Scarily Problematic.

In June 2013  Robert “Jackson” Mueller allegedly met Taylor Swift at a meet and greet before a concert at the Pepsi Center in Denver, when he worked as a radio host for KYGO. While posing for a ‘last minute’ photo, Swift says Mueller ‘took his hand and put it up my dress and grabbed onto my ass cheek and no matter how much I scooted over it was still there.”

In September 2015 Robert “Jackson” Mueller sued Taylor Swift for slander. He claims the accusations he faced from her security after the incident resulted in his being banned from future concerts and later, his dismissal from the radio station. Mueller admits that Swift was definitely sexually assaulted but says it was by his former KYGO radio station boss, Eddie Haskell.

Swift, in turn, has filed a countersuit against Mueller. The countersuit reads,”Resolution of this counterclaim will ..serve as an example to other women who may resist publicly reliving similar outrageous and humiliating acts.”

Last week (21/10) the judge ruled to keep a photo of the incident private but allow the rest of the evidence to go public, making her deposition available. In the deposition she describes the incident several times describing an experience that many women can relate to in some way or another.

“I remember being frantic, distressed, feeling violated in a way I had never experienced before.” Swift says in the deposition. “A meet-and-greet is supposed to be a situation where you’re thanking people for coming, you’re supposed to be welcoming people into your home, which is the arena for that day, and for someone to violate that hospitality in that way, I was completely stunned.”

Swift has said that in the case that a jury grants her money, she wishes to donate it to organizations that protect women “from similar acts of sexual assault and personal disregard.”

This form of sexual assault is so commonplace, many women have become complacent with it, accepting it as a normality. Swift’s lawsuit and influence may help many women realize that inappropriate behaviour like this is not acceptable, as well as remove the stigma and oftentimes fear of mockery that hold many women from saying anything about these incidents.

But the significance of these events are only really felt when they accumulate to a normalized mentality where men feel like the next step above that can be just as easily defended with an ‘I didn’t mean any harm, calm down’, or ‘stop overreacting/exaggerating’. Allowing ourselves to be silenced for fear of embarrassment, is allowing this person to embarrass you, and encourages them to continue to demean other women.

These small actions are compounded and justified in a society where potential world leaders use terms like ‘grab ’em by the pussy’. Where men who are sentenced a measly 6 months in prison for a 14 year crime, and who only serve 3 months. A society where law only recognizes the rape of an unconscious woman with a foreign object as sexual assault, and not rape. Where the existence of rape culture is still deemed debatable.

Swift’s lawsuit encourages women to make these things public, getting misogyny right where it hurts- grabbing it by the balls.

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